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How to Stop Taking It Out on Your Child: 5 Tips for Parents
07.05.2023 01:00
If you notice that it is difficult for you to tame your anger when communicating with your child, then before you start yelling, try to understand the reason for its occurrence. Fight the root cause of the problem, otherwise there will be no talk of good relations with the child or children.
So how can you stop raising your voice all the time and start talking to your daughter or son calmly? Try the following.
Remove the irritant
Find out what exactly makes you scream. To do this, analyze the situation while in a calm state, or record for yourself each time the incidents that cause anger. If nothing helps, try keeping a so-called emotional diary. As soon as you identify the trigger, you will be able to eliminate it and stop losing your temper with your child.
Plan your time and give yourself some rest
Chronic fatigue puts your body into a state of constant stress and tension. Because of this, you will even reluctantly snap at those around you, including your child.
Be aware of the consequences of your intemperance
Let this be the emergency stopcock you need when you're in a bad mood. Remember that children are sponges. They absorb what they see and hear. And sooner or later, the time will come when your aggression, splashed out on your child, will come back to you.
Define a stop word for yourself
And it is very good if you visualize it. Your child should know this key and pronounce it every time he sees your anger. After that, try to force yourself to stop and not continue the conflict, otherwise the child will lose trust that you keep your word as a parent and simply an adult.
Voice your feelings and emotions
There is nothing bad or shameful about this. It is better to say frankly that you are angry and furious at the moment than to start shouting from the very beginning. As practice shows, even this small action allows you to significantly reduce the degree of tension and avoid another quarrel.
A parent's scream does not indicate that they do not love their child. But this is usually obvious only to adults, while children perceive everything the other way around. If you were unable to restrain yourself, be sure to ask your child for forgiveness after the outburst of anger has passed. Let the child know that you regret what you did. And you, in turn, try to reduce the number of such unpleasant incidents to a minimum.
