"You just need to be lucky," you sometimes think to yourself when you see so many people who seem unattainable.
People who run big companies succeed, win competitions and get what they want. But that's not true. Because all these successful people are different in just six things that they do differently from everyone else.
And no, I'm not talking about beauty, rich parents, connections, or other such things that always explain someone's success.
It's not about luck, fate or chance.
It's really just about how you approach life.
1. Approach to learning
Successful people are constantly learning new things and constantly strive to learn more and more. Unsuccessful people have the impression that they already know everything and do not want to develop further.
You can't stand still - it's as simple as setting a goal. Notice that the ones who are most successful are the ones who keep moving forward - doing something new, changing industries, taking a different path and constantly learning because they know it's important. They invest in themselves and their brains.
It's hard to win and be good at something if you already assume you know everything and don't have to do anything. There have been those who waited for a miracle. The successful never waited.
2. Approach to mistakes
You know what a successful person says when they make a mistake? “Sorry, I screwed up. I could have done it differently” - it’s not for nothing that they say that a wise person learns from his mistakes, and that’s true. If you see that A didn’t work, you either try to improve A or do B, but you definitely admit to yourself and others that idea A totally sucks and something needs to change.
What do losers do? They blame others and circumstances, because it’s easier that way. “I didn’t make it because someone else was luckier,” “I couldn’t because it was raining,” “I can’t work in this country because it’s a bad country,” “I can’t earn more money because it’s impossible in this world.”
If you know you did something wrong and you admit it, you can fix it. If you keep blaming someone else, you will never move on because whatever is wrong is not your fault.
3. Approach to change
Successful people know that change is good. It is change that pushes us forward, and it is change that makes us do things better, more effectively, or differently. When you are afraid of change, you are stuck in one place all the time.
If athletes didn't change their training, people wouldn't give up everything and move to the other end of the world, if "crazy people" didn't suddenly quit their regular jobs for their crazy ideas, and if people didn't want to change something, this world would be a damn sad place and our lives would be the same every day.
4. Approach to conversations
Successful people talk about their ideas and plans, while unsuccessful people talk about other people, and usually in a bad way. Backbiting, meddling in other people's lives, poisonous gossip, hate-mongering... sounds familiar, doesn't it?
If these people, instead of chatting about others, started planning their own lives, it might look completely different.
And another thing: a successful person compliments others and appreciates their talents, virtues, achievements. A man who cannot achieve success can only hate and attack, often without any reason (for example, "it's crazy that this chick eats a 1000 ruble breakfast!" - what business do you have? It's her business what she spends money on).
5. Attitude towards people
If you focus on your life and your goals, you know that it's worth forgiving people because we all make mistakes. You don't hold grudges, you don't hold grudges for weeks, you don't hate people for something they did to you in the past.
You forgive and give a chance, and it often pays off.
Holding a grudge is like a poison that people inject themselves with. Why keep all the hatred inside? Wouldn't it be better to give in and do something more enjoyable? You're not spoiling yourself or others.
6. Approach to the success of others
This is something I often notice in school, work or college. If you have achieved some success - big or small, it doesn't matter, you are happy when others achieve success too. Why shouldn't you enjoy it?
It's great that more and more people are achieving their dreams and getting what they want. You don't treat people as a threat, you wish them well because you know that you are the master of your own destiny, and the fact that Anya from your department will also get a raise won't stop you.
Envious people not only do not rejoice in the success of others and dream only of their own success, but they are also HAPPY when people fail. How sad to have the pleasure of seeing someone fail.
