Have you noticed how some people insert the word "generally" into every other sentence? "Generally, it's not my problem", "I don't think so at all", "What are you even talking about?"
It may seem like a simple speech habit, but behind it lies a toxic behavior pattern that is slowly destroying your relationship.
And if you don’t recognize this in time, the consequences will be irreversible.
People who overuse the word "generally" often use it as a shield. It helps them distance themselves from responsibility and shift the conversation to the abstract.
For example, instead of a specific answer to the question, “Why didn’t you complete the task?” you will hear: “Actually, I wasn’t supposed to do that.”
This is not an argument - it is an attempt to change the rules of dialogue. The interlocutor puts himself above the situation so that you feel wrong even without a reason.
It is even more dangerous when “in general” becomes an instrument of hidden aggression. Phrases like “Can you even hear me?” or “In general, this is nonsense” destroy the possibility of a constructive conversation.
They put the conversation into a conflict mode where your opinion is considered unimportant from the start.
Such people rarely compromise because their goal is not to solve the problem, but to prove their superiority.
How to protect yourself? Stop taking their "in general" at face value. Ask clarifying questions: "What exactly do you mean by "in general"?" or "Can you explain without generalizing?"
This will deprive the interlocutor of the opportunity to manipulate and will force him to speak specifically.
If he continues to go into abstractions, you are dealing with a professional manipulator. Further communication with him will cost you nerves.
