Manipulation is a hidden influence on a person, the purpose of which is to gain benefit or control over him.
The essence of such actions is that the interlocutor feels unpleasant emotions and hurries to get rid of them through action.
How to detect manipulation
Manipulators use certain words and expressions in their speech. In this list, we have collected some of them - remember if you have heard them.
Imposing opinions and decisions
If you hear your wife say that “this is what good husbands do,” you should be wary – they are clearly trying to manipulate you.
Control of behavior and actions
The phrase “If you go to a corporate party in this, then I…” is an obvious manipulation that your significant other uses.
Restrictive conditions and requirements
Another expression that manipulators often use in their speech is: “If you don’t apologize, then I will…”.
Distortion of facts
Distortion of facts is often accompanied by the selection of a separate element and exaggeration of its importance. For example, a manipulative mother-in-law may say to her daughter-in-law: "It's good, of course, that you organized the child's birthday party, but just look at the horror that is happening to Aunt Klava's chair - there is no cushion on it!"
Summary
The words "all", "always", "never" and others are clear signals that manipulation is about to happen. "You're always late!" - how do you like that?
Guilt
Manipulative people often try to make their interlocutor feel guilty: “Actually, a loving husband gives you…”
Devaluation
And where would we be without devaluing achievements: "So what if I passed the exam! At your age, I already finished my master's degree!"
