Many older parents want to maintain normal relationships with their adult children.
Unfortunately, not everyone succeeds.
The fact is that some people continue to treat their adult sons and daughters like children.
This is where the desire to constantly criticize, share advice and interfere in life comes from.
Understand: if your children have already become adults and independent people, then they no longer need control and guidance.
So, how should parents behave in order to improve relationships with adult children?
Stop giving advice
First of all, you should give up such a habit as the desire to constantly share advice.
The desire of parents to help their children is understandable.
But you need to realize the following: if an adult needs a parental recommendation, he will make the corresponding request himself.
But unsolicited advice can ruin relationships: perhaps a person will decide that his mother and father are still not confident in his independence.
Drop the accusations
There is no need to constantly criticize an adult child. This approach will not help solve problems.
Do you have a complaint about your adult son or daughter? Use the "I-message"!
For example, instead of asking, “Why don’t you call me often?” you can say, “I’m sad because we rarely get to talk to each other.”
Respect boundaries
Do not interfere in the personal lives of adult children.
Give your sons and daughters the opportunity to act independently.
