The female phrase “you were different before the wedding” is always said with reproach, resentment and categorically.
But the fact that attitudes are really changing is already a scientific fact. Scientists were able to find out why this is happening and who is to blame.
Relationships before and after marriage
The University of Auckland staff paid their attention to this topic.
They were so fascinated that they observed the behavior of 1,615 volunteers over 14 years.
The findings are devastating: relationships in couples change after people officially register their marriage. The scientific article was published by Sex Roles.
What we managed to find out
The fact is that as soon as a man and a woman legalize their relationship according to all the canons and norms, some re-evaluation occurs in their lives.
As a result, a man begins to perceive the presence of a woman in his life and her role in a different way.
First year
Already during the first 12 months of marriage, men's behavior becomes more sexist. That is, their attitude toward women becomes biased.
Women are not lagging behind in this regard, and supporters of the theory of gender inequality begin to rejoice and clap their hands.
However, nothing like this was observed in the behavior of the newlyweds before the wedding. True, in the second year the relationship slowly but surely normalizes.
Why does this happen?
Scientists believe that the reason for this is a man's fear of being under the power of a woman. But is this possible without the participation of a woman?
Of course not. The reason for female sexism is that women begin to worry about their husband's fidelity.
Simply put, they are afraid that another woman will come and take their husband away.
Therefore, unmarried men and women live happily, without fear of losing and without sacrificing their goals and interests because of the ambitions of their other half.
