It's unlikely that anyone wants to have a reputation as a bad conversationalist.
However, some people, against their will, acquire this very status.
What mistakes in conversations make a person unpleasant to others?
What can cause people around you to stop respecting you and lose the desire to communicate with you?
Telling about your problems
The desire to share with others your own experiences about life's failures is quite understandable.
After all, you want to cry on someone's shoulder.
But seek sympathy only from those closest to you: from those in front of whom you are not afraid to show yourself weak.
But you shouldn't "burden" your friends, colleagues and simple acquaintances with your problems. They are unlikely to want to listen to your "whining".
If you do take this step, you will immediately lose respect and acquire the status of an undesirable interlocutor.
Non-stop conversation
Yes, sometimes you want to speak out. But keep it in moderation.
Understand that people are not inclined to listen to long and boring monologues.
Therefore, speak briefly and to the point. Never interrupt your interlocutors. It is better to learn to listen to them.
Rub salt into the wounds
Don't remind your interlocutors of events that are unpleasant for them.
Avoid speaking negatively about things that are important to your companion.
Respect other people's opinions, views and tastes. And then you won't be shunned.
Earlier we explained why women should not be asked about their age.
