People known as "pleasers" tend to please others, often to the detriment of their own interests.
This behavior differs from a healthy form of altruism because it is not motivated by a genuine desire to help, but rather by an inability to say no and put one's needs first.
Pleasers care about the opinions of others, and their desire to appear good can become so strong that it begins to resemble an addiction.
Their desire to gain outside approval sometimes leads them to put the needs of others above their own.
Characteristic features of the pleaser
Pleasers try their best to avoid open conflicts, because they cannot stand the thought of someone being angry with them. They will hide their discontent and indignation, even strong ones, in order to remain on good terms with the other person.
In their quest for popularity and desire to please others, pleasers pretend to agree with everyone and everything. Such people often lack firm views and principles.
They tend to change them according to the circumstances, adapt to the behavior of others and demonstrate a genuine interest in the topic in order to fit into the team more easily and quickly.
Pleasers don't know how to say "no." They're afraid that rejecting an offer or request could lead to a worsening of the relationship with the person who approached them.
This fear forces them to agree to do things they don't like and to help even those they don't like. People around them often take advantage of this willingness to help, and pleasers have no energy or time left for their own lives.
Finally, all pleasers have a habit of apologizing and making excuses.
People-pleasers tend to feel responsible for the emotions of others. They believe that the happiness of others is their personal responsibility, and they feel guilty for even the slightest inconvenience. Apologizing for being two minutes late is quite typical of people like these.
Earlier, BelNovosti wrote about how to recognize an envious friend .
