In the era of collectivism, it was impossible to imagine that in a few decades the world would move away from universality and become excessively egocentric. Now, instead of “we,” we often hear “I” or “mine.” Colossal changes have turned modern people into lonely creatures.
There are many reasons for this, and value selection is one of them, says Stanislav Sambursky, clinical psychologist at the “Clinic of Dr. Anikina” and author of the Zen channel “Ecological Psychologist. ”
Now, more than ever, society is divided into adherents and opponents of certain religious, political, moral views. Some are developing, others are choosing regression. Virtual communication triumphs over real communication.
Fear is a strong emotion. Most often, the fear of rejection is not recognized by a person and increasingly consumes society. For most, it is important to have friends, lovers and relatives.
The metamorphoses taking place in the world lobby for new paradigms, value and moral guidelines and openly bring about a social split. Just yesterday, a family was considered large and friendly, and today it is divided into two camps. Once loyal friends have become hateful to each other. All this is accompanied by interpersonal misunderstanding, confusion and isolation. Someone, left without support, goes in search of like-minded people, others remain "black sheep".
It has been a tradition since ancient times that the chances of surviving alone are negligible. The fear of dying pushes people to form small groups. In them, people feel safe and important. In a situation where communication is reduced to a minimum, mental pain from their own uselessness appears.
If failures at work are layered on top of this, then the fears and anxiety double. When attempts to get out of the oppressed situation end in failure, hopelessness arises.
Fear of rejection pushes people to do things that do not bring spiritual benefit. They are bizarrely pleasing to others, try their best to be good, chase attention and record their actions on social networks. Everyone must see what they have achieved, what they have bought, who they have met, etc.
Why doesn't this bring results? It's simple: modern society is at the peak of indifference, no one is interested in the problems of another person. Only I and only I am important. Never before in history have narcissism and egoism influenced people so openly.
The motto of modern society is: "Be like them, because you deserve it." Individuality is not welcomed. A number of templates are broadcast via social networks for general use.
To go the other way means to be an outcast. The number of bloggers worshiped by other Internet users is growing at an incredible rate. They are nothing special, but they demonstrate a beautiful life and an endless flow of financial resources, which largely depends on donations from zombified subscribers. At the same time, watching their idols with interest, many dream of the same life.
Imitation has reached an incredible level: thoughts, perceptions, actions, goals – everything is carbon copy. If you are not the same, you will condemn yourself to loneliness. It is important to realize that it is easier to manage a homogeneous mass than a society in which differences of views are welcomed.
In the event of a problem or a situation where you can't do without someone else's help, the scales suddenly fall from your eyes, and a painful awareness of your lonely position comes. And then you remember that even before following the crowd, deep inside you had a flash of doubt about the correctness of your chosen path. It appeared several more times, but it was drowned out by a feeling of brave unity with millions of others like you. Then it didn't even occur to you that bots and specially trained people played a big role in your desire to imitate.
What will happen next? This is probably a rhetorical question, since the world is already preparing for total digitalization, total worship of one country and the understanding that freedom of choice can be forgotten.
