Perhaps every second parent sets as an example for their child a classmate, friend, relative or even a neighbor who has achieved more success in some area.
This is where the habit of comparing oneself to “the son of one’s mother’s friend” is formed and, more often than not, losing in this comparison.
The mistake, according to experts , lies in comparing people, whereas what should be compared is their achievements, as well as the work they had to do to achieve such a result.
Since no two people are alike, and everyone has their own abilities and talents, comparison leads to the destruction of uniqueness and individuality. If more successful people are constantly before your eyes, a drop in self-esteem and an increase in self-doubt are simply inevitable.
For this reason, comparison gives rise to envy, jealousy and resentment, which causes a person to direct energy towards others instead of investing it in himself.
Try to compare your results with what others have achieved. In doing so, it is worth asking yourself the following questions:
- What did this man do that I didn't?
- What did he do, what did he achieve?
- What have I done today to…?
Over time, you will develop the habit of consciously looking at what you do, as well as what you are putting effort into. In addition, you will learn to perform 2-3 actions daily that will lead you to your intended goal.
