Love is a voluntary matter. But some people search all their lives and cannot find this very love, while others at the same time fall madly in love with unavailable partners.
Scientists got concerned and found an answer, but so far only to one question.
Why do people condemn themselves to unrequited love?
First, there is the phenomenon of the attractiveness of unavailability.
That is, a person reaches out to the object of his adoration until he gets to know him properly and until he remains mysterious because of his inaccessibility.
Secondly, you can experience interesting sensations from the intrigue that has arisen.
In this case, people get pleasure from the desire to overcome the problems that arise on the path to happiness.
This makes the object of affection even more attractive.
Thirdly, many people often endow people they don’t know well but like with qualities that they may not have.
But all this is just a fantasy, which leads to a person living in an illusory world where there are no problems and everyone is happy.
Fourthly, problems with self-esteem can push you down this path.
Because access to a loved one is limited, these people are in a more comfortable state for themselves.
Burning with love for a distant and inaccessible person, people assert themselves if for some reason they suddenly decide that they do not deserve to be loved.
But in any of these cases, a person is faced with deception, which allows him to hide his fears, insecurities and other negative attitudes.
Only a persistent desire to build a normal relationship will allow you to give up crazy dreams.
