He appears like a hero from a romantic movie: he gives flowers for no reason, calls you “the only one” and promises the moon from the sky.
But psychologists warn that behind such a facade there often lurks a dangerous narcissistic pattern.
These partners use idealization as a tool of control - they "bombard" you with attention to quickly attach you, and then begin to devalue you.
The first warning sign is an obsessive invasion of personal boundaries. For example, he may demand passwords from social networks already on the second date, explaining this as “concern”.
The real story of Olga, 28: "He said that I was his destiny, and a week later he suggested that I move in with him. I refused, and then the reproaches began: "You don't love me!" Later it turned out that he had three such "destinies" in other cities."
Such cases are not uncommon. Research shows that 65% of narcissists practice “love bombing” — intense courtship aimed at creating dependency.
How to distinguish sincerity from manipulation?
Conduct a resistance test. Refuse an uncomfortable suggestion (for example, to change your hairstyle) and see how they react.
The narcissist will respond with aggression or passive resentment (“You disappoint me”) rather than respecting your choice.
Another marker is the lack of long-term friendships. If all his stories about people end with the phrase "they betrayed me," this is a reason to think.
The biggest trap is believing that you will "fix" him with love. But narcissists don't change - they just mask their behavior.
If after the honeymoon period criticism, gaslighting (“You imagined it”) and emotional swings begin, run.
As practice shows, 80% of victims of such relationships lose self-esteem and years of life, trying to return to the “initial version” of their partner.
