Only a strong-willed person can admit that he was wrong. Then all that remains is to apologize and change his behavior.
But a tyrant does not always realize that he is behaving like a tyrant. In such cases, people simply do not understand who is the abuser in a relationship and who is the victim.
How to understand that it is you, and not your partner, who is the abuser, reports the publication “ Evening Moscow ” with reference to an expert.
The first sign: devaluation
It is believed that psychological violence is committed by a person who wants to look strong and powerful.
In reality, he is weak, insecure and compensates for his internal fears by humiliating his partner.
The main signs in this case are “constant questioning, total control, caustic remarks and unfounded claims.”
The second sign: masks
In the eyes of others, the abuser tries to maintain an ideal image.
That is, “with colleagues, relatives or neighbors” the abuser is always polite and friendly, but alone with his partner he is irritable and aggressive.
The third sign: insults
For an abuser, any situation can become a basis for a quarrel.
And he doesn't see anything special in laughing at or humiliating his partner.
Perhaps after a quarrel he will even feel ashamed of his outburst of anger, but such a person will not make any attempts to change his behavior.
