In the heat of an argument, a person may tell his other half: “If you do that again, I’ll divorce you!”
This method is very dangerous. Especially if the person has no desire to dissolve the marriage.
By threatening your partner with divorce, you increase the risk that the family will break up.
And what’s most interesting is that the divorce application will most likely be filed not by you, but by your spouse.
"Preliminary Grief"
There is an interesting concept in psychology - "Preliminary grief".
It means the following: a person begins to worry about an event that has not yet happened.
Over time, the individual gets used to this state and calms down: “It’s inevitable anyway! What’s the point of grieving if I can’t fix anything anyway?”
In some situations, such reasoning helps a person to psychologically prepare for serious problems.
In other cases, “preliminary grief” forces one to give up and stop fighting.
Why you shouldn't threaten your husband/wife with divorce
Now let's get back to where we started.
Why is the threat of divorce so bad?
The answer is simple: by using this technique, you will force your partner to begin to experience that very “preliminary grief.”
At first, your other half will get scared and start trying to change the situation... And then they will simply come to terms with what is happening.
Your spouse may well come to the wrong conclusion that divorce is inevitable and simply give up trying to restore normal relations.
Over time, a person will decide: “After all, divorce is not such a bad decision!”
