Some time after the birth of the first child, many parents begin to think about having a second.
One of the difficulties that families may face at this stage is the potential for jealousy to arise in the older child towards the younger one.
In this case, it is important to avoid extremes, such as overindulging the older child or neglecting him in caring for the younger one.
Instead, tell your child that you need his or her help and give them different tasks to take care of the younger sibling. Important: If the child expresses reluctance to help, do not insist, to avoid the formation of negative emotions.
Going shopping? Take the older one with you: let him choose clothes or toys for the younger one. Don’t forget to buy him a toy or a treat as a thank you. This will help the firstborn feel important and give him self-confidence.
When you return from the hospital, take the time to introduce the older to the younger. Let the older one look at the baby, touch him, and help with small tasks.
Encourage all attempts by the elder to help, be sure to thank him and praise him, pointing out how responsible and kind he is.
Aggression is inevitable and should be met with an adequate response from the adult. Sit down and talk calmly to the child, holding him on your lap and showing empathy.
Don't skip the usual rituals you had before your younger child was born. Bedtime cuddles, reading books, and other expressions of love should not disappear from your older child's life. This will help him understand that the arrival of the younger one has not diminished your love for him.
Previously, we shared 10 tips to help you raise a happy child.
