Relationships imply complete trust and a chance to share your thoughts, secrets and desires with your partner. But it is worth understanding that in a healthy relationship there are certain boundaries that are better not to cross.
Remember that you and your loved one have the right to personal space, which is necessary for mental health.
So, let's take a closer look at what you shouldn't share with your beloved. Let's highlight 5 points.
Memories of fleeting passions
We are all human, and sometimes the feeling of respect and admiration goes beyond reasonable boundaries in relation to a colleague or acquaintance.
But if such a relationship has not developed into betrayal or into a greater feeling, then you should not inform your beloved about it!
Take care of her peace of mind. It's hard enough for her sometimes: she often suffers from rather severe bouts of self-doubt mixed with jealousy.
Details of your past
No one argues that it is better to tell your other half about what happened in your life.
For example, what mistakes were made, what were your hobbies, etc. But a number of details, like jokes - revenge on some ladies or how the date went (the first night with the ex) are better to keep to yourself.
This is not the kind of information your significant other is eager to hear from you.
If you don’t want to spend a lot of time fighting your girlfriend’s suspicions and complexes, then it’s better to summarize such information in a soft and correct manner, omitting details and particulars.
Don't create a "platform" for scandals with your own hands. There are enough reasons for that in your life.
List the virtues of ex-girlfriends
But you should never do this if you don’t want to quickly end the relationship.
No woman will tolerate being compared to another. If the comparison was not in her favor, then this is a guaranteed scandal and a break in relations.
Even subsequent apologies may not help you regain the girl's former favor.
If you want to spice up your relationship, look for other methods (safer for your relationship and nervous system).
Jealousy
This is a controversial topic, as some psychologists, on the contrary, advise sharing the reasons for jealousy with your partner.
On the one hand, one can agree with this – a woman will know what in her behavior or appearance upsets her beloved man and should “soften the sharp edges” as much as possible.
It could be a change in style, a compromise on spending time with friends, or communicating with someone on social media.
But on the other hand, it is worth understanding that it is easy to go too far with jealousy and lose even the slightest opportunity to restore relations with the woman you love.
At the same time, a lady may have compelling arguments in her defense against her partner’s unfounded jealousy:
- she honestly describes to you the events that happened to her during the day;
- is next to the man she loves, and not to the supposed lover;
- does what she can to create a “warm home atmosphere.”
Comments from friends and family about your significant other
Not always relatives and friends calmly accept the choice made.
In their opinion, it may turn out that another girl (usually a distant relative or a good friend) would be a much better fit.
And in defense of their position they will present a bunch of arguments, clearly commenting on every action of your current girlfriend.
It is worth noting that it is better not to bring these words to the attention of your precious lady.
Optimal: in a soft and streamlined manner, tell your loved one what exactly you would like her to change about herself (learn to cook, change her hairstyle, take up sports). But choose your words carefully! Otherwise, you risk seriously offending your other half.
Earlier we talked about how to properly refuse a date .
