At the beginning of their married life, every couple thinks that everything will definitely be fine. But years pass, feelings dull, and family life turns out to be completely different from what was imagined.
And it often happens that a man starts looking in different directions to compensate for what he lacks in marriage. Naturally, an attentive wife will not allow such a development of events.
Here are five important things men need in marriage. And if they don't get them, they start looking for them elsewhere.
Feeling of freedom
Most men value the feeling of their freedom in a relationship. They want ease and the ability to make their own decisions without looking back at their wife's opinion. They want independence, not constant reminders that they are guilty of something.
This is especially true for those men who were ambitious, proactive and energetic before marriage. Such men are used to not paying attention to the opinions of others, so pressure in marriage can lead to big problems.
What a wife should do: Don't put pressure on your husband! Of course, there are important family issues that require both of you to participate, but give him the opportunity to make his own decisions as well.
Feeling of self-importance
Remember how you looked at your fiancé with a loving gaze before marriage. He inspired delight in you, you wanted to please him, you listened to his opinion! And what now, when you have been married for ten, fifteen or twenty years?
There is no point in denying that your attitude towards him has changed (especially when you already know about all his shortcomings).
In fact, it hurts men a lot, even those who try not to show their delicate nature. Each of them strives to feel their importance, and not to see every day a look as if at an empty space.
What a wife should do: if you want to save the relationship, try to improve your attitude towards your husband.
Remember what attracted you to him in the first place, because it couldn't all just disappear into thin air. And compliment him more often, praise him - men just blossom from this! And you will only win in the end.
A feeling of novelty and fresh impressions
Unfortunately, the freshness and brightness of relationships in marriages do not last long. Gray everyday life, daily worries, household problems - all this kills romance and novelty.
And when a cheerful girl turns into a wife who is constantly worried about something, a man begins to look around in search of an adrenaline rush.
What a wife should do: don’t get bogged down in family life, but leave time for entertainment.
Remember how much fun you had together before! After all, not long ago you were capable of crazy actions, you were in a good mood more often, and it was this ease that attracted your husband. Therefore, it is important to leave room in the relationship for new bright impressions. Let it be joint trips, erotic flirting or gifts for no reason - the main thing is that you both like it.
Support and understanding
Even the strongest men need constant support from the closest person – their wife. They want to hear simple, but such effective words that they will succeed.
It is important for them to count on understanding in any case, even if they fail. Unfortunately, most women not only do not support their men, but regularly point out their shortcomings.
What a wife should do: do not spare words of support for your own husband! It is so simple - to tell him: "I am so lucky to have you", "I believe in you", "I am always on your side". Such words are truly inspiring!
All these needs are obvious and quite simple, but in the daily hustle and bustle we often forget about them.
Take your time, start making small steps towards change, and you will see good results very soon. Your relationship with your man can reach a new level, so try it!
Previously we wrote about the unique features of a woman.
