In terms of relationships, women are much more vulnerable than men. More often than not, they become victims of deception. A beautiful lie lures and makes you believe in a fairy tale, while in reality the other side has completely different plans.
Having been burned once or twice, a woman convinces herself that naivety is in the past. But she meets another “dream man,” and everything repeats itself: a broken heart, wasted time, and the clock is ticking… This raises the question: “How can I protect myself and understand in time whether he is worth it or not?” The answer can be divided into three points, says psychologist Stanislav Sambursky .
Interest
The beginning of a relationship is a period of special interest, you constantly want to be close and know the smallest details. Interest in a person is a direct indicator that you are not indifferent to her.
Many women are already deceiving themselves at this stage. When their beloved is busy, does not answer calls and regularly finds excuses for his silence, it does not bother them. And in vain... A person who is busy with work will always find a couple of minutes for the one he is interested in. But women continue to believe that now he will be free, we will meet, and everything will be fine.
Another indicator of interest is the ability to wait for intimacy. Those who care only about sex do not stick to the deadlines. This is not beneficial for them: there will always be someone who will satisfy this need. Yes, there are those who are ready to wait for the allotted time, but consider it another victory. At least, postponing intimacy increases the chances of meeting a worthy person many times over.
Actions and deeds
An important difference between a scoundrel and a decent person is speed. A normal man will never give all the gifts possible in the first months of dating. For him, a woman is a long-term project that needs to be slowly learned and pleased according to the situation.
It is not profitable for a scoundrel to wait. He needs everything here and now. Speed is the main tool in conquering women's hearts. If he hesitates, then the statistics for the year will sadden him with small numbers of victories. Decent men clearly contrast with this background. They are measured, calm, self-confident. They are guided by reason, not by wild passion.
The behavior of the woman herself
Based on the above-described signs of a worthy man, let's move on to women's. The fact is that failures in personal life depend on them too. After meeting an attractive "gentleman" they lose their minds, become annoying, open books in which there is nothing to read. This is a gift for someone who wanted to take advantage and leave.
Why behave like this? A woman is interesting when you need to win her over. In fact, it turns out the opposite. Blind passion turns off the brain, and the obvious shortcomings of a man are no longer noticed: his neglect, impudence, etc. The absurdity sometimes reaches its highest point, when a man has done nothing for a woman at all, and she is ready to do everything for him. Adequacy and preserving your own "I" when developing a relationship is the key to a happy future, if not with this partner, then with another.
Nowadays it is fashionable to live by the principle: "as I feel, so I live" or "we only live once". Do you want this? Go ahead! Few people want to make an effort. Everyone knows the saying: "He who does not work, does not eat." It can be applied to relationships: if you do not work on yourself, you will always be disappointed, cry, step on the same rake and envy those who really work on the relationship.
Most women are afraid of loneliness, so they open up to almost everyone they meet. Against this background, smart women look rather gloomy. They are self-sufficient and lonely. Someone will say: "It's their own fault!" Perhaps, but they do not waste precious time on scoundrels and do not allow themselves to be treated inappropriately.
In any case, everyone has their own choice.
