The process of growing up is inevitable. The child changes externally, his views and priorities change, new character traits are formed.
All this happens by itself. But it is also important for the mature individual to undergo separation from parents. This means becoming independent financially, physically and psychologically.
A person should not stop communicating with his mother and father, but in everyday life he should solve all his problems independently, make decisions based on his own mind.
When a person becomes an adult, he begins to feel out of place if his parents are too protective of him. In this case, he needs to think about separating. Several tips will help him with this.
Start earning
As long as a person is financially dependent on their parents, they are easy to manipulate and control. In this case, parents will dictate their rules, which will have to be followed.
To live your own way, you need to have a job and earn money for your own needs. In this situation, no one will be able to dictate their terms.
Start living independently
It is necessary to move into a rented apartment to separate physically from mom and dad. This will allow you to gain greater freedom of action.
If you don't have enough money, you can chip in with friends and live with them. This will allow you to start solving everyday problems on your own and gain more and more independence.
Demonstrate common sense
In life, you need to behave correctly, make rational decisions. It is necessary to refuse to participate in dubious enterprises, so as not to get into unpleasant situations. Due to this, it will be possible to show responsibility, commitment.
You should learn to resolve conflicts on your own, not run to mom and dad every time if you have a fight with your partner or can't find a common language with a teacher at university. It's better not to share such details with your parents at all, so as not to give them an extra reason for discontent and criticism.
Build personal boundaries
This should be started immediately after moving away from parents. A person should be clearly made to understand that he will not tolerate interference in his personal life, instructions on when to come home, with whom to communicate, where to work.
It is better to survive disagreements with your mom and dad than to suffer for the rest of your life because you had to listen to their decisions, and as a result end up in a relationship with an unloved partner, or go to a job that you don’t like.
Any person should apply such rules. In this case, he will quickly become autonomous, will not depend on his parents, will live independently.
