The teenage period is difficult not only for the one who is personally experiencing it. The mother and father of the child who seemed so small to them just recently also experience difficulties.
The son or daughter will sometimes behave in a not very good way, will show themselves in a not very acceptable way. Parents will sometimes hear from the one who is growing up rather quickly, a huge number of complaints, which, as it will seem to them, are definitely not justified.
But it is not recommended to immediately tell them about this, because this can only ruin the relationship with the child.
It is very important for parents to behave correctly when a teenager starts making claims. And a few simple tips will help them with this.
Hear
You should start by turning off the grievances so as not to dwell on them. You need to understand the situation, and not reproach the teenager for ingratitude.
It may well turn out that he is saying some useful things that are worth paying attention to.
Decipher
Once the teenager's position has become clear, it is necessary to think about what is happening. If there is a willingness to give up something in order to change what the growing child does not like, then it is worth doing.
But first you need to voice your position, explain it so that both sides understand what they want. Only after that can you start looking for a compromise.
Start with yourself
A teenager's behavior may be provocative, but it doesn't become so out of nowhere. If he says something in a tone that parents don't like, they should remember themselves.
Surely they, too, in some other perspective, voiced something similar to their child. If they reconsider their behavior, if they start to set a different example, then the teenager's complaints will turn into appeals and requests.
Do not apply
A teenager can manipulate mom and dad. This way he can achieve his goal, or he can simply test the boundaries. You shouldn't give in to his tricks.
It is necessary to stop such behavior so that it does not become a habit and spoil family relationships.
Parents should remember all these points. If they follow them, they will definitely be able to cope with the teenager, not give in to his provocations, but also not traumatize his psyche.
