Psychologists are rushing to reassure parents who are worried about the fact that children in the family often quarrel.
Firstly, this cannot be avoided. Secondly, even in quarrels, children learn to build relationships with their peers. And this quality will definitely be useful in the future.
Therefore, experts insist that there is no need to worry too much about children’s quarrels.
It is only necessary to develop the correct attitude towards children and the conflicts that occur between them.
And you definitely shouldn't try to avoid quarrels. Otherwise, a child raised in hothouse conditions will face problems in independent life.
How to Reduce Quarrels
Parents have the power to influence the number of quarrels between children, their scale and consequences, if they follow the following instructions.
1. Without taking sides in the conflict, ask how the children are feeling at that moment.
2. It would be good to establish family rules that will act as conditions for a truce or will prohibit conflicts in a certain place and at a specific time.
3. Punishing for this also makes no sense - it is better to talk and explain the consequences of the act.
4. You can't scold or punish the older child while giving the younger one a break. Everyone should be responsible for their own actions.
5. It is necessary to respect children’s choices and preferences.
6. But the most important thing is personal example, spending time together and a warm atmosphere in the family.
For reference
A quarrel , a conflict is the most acute way of resolving contradictions in interests, goals, views that occur in the process of social interaction, consisting of opposition between the participants in this interaction and usually accompanied by negative emotions, going beyond certain limits.
