Children's tantrums are a "phenomenon" that any parent has had to deal with more than once.
Many mothers and fathers believe that nothing can be done about such behavior in a child – you just need to wait until the child grows up.
But psychologists think differently and share a secret method that will help you cope with your child’s budding tantrum.
Your job is to let your children know that you respect their feelings.
During the next crisis, parents should help the child understand what is happening to him at the moment.
Once you acknowledge your child's feelings and give her the opportunity to participate in solving the problem, the tantrum will stop.
Let's look at the situation in practice.
Imagine: a child is about to start a scandal. The reason is not important: they are forcing him to wear a jacket in winter instead of a dress, persuading him to go to bed instead of watching cartoons, or calling him to dinner in the middle of a game.
At this point, you should look your son or daughter straight in the eye and in a quiet, calm voice ask, “Is this a big problem, a medium problem, or a small problem?”
You will see: the question you ask will have a magical effect on the child.
The child will stop being hysterical, start thinking and finally answer, after which you can look for a way to solve the problem together.
As a rule, it doesn't take long to sort out small problems.
Medium problems require a little more attention and time - you will, of course, solve them, but not right away.
Finally, a serious problem needs special attention - never ignore what your child considers important, even if you think it is something stupid. Sometimes you will have to help your child realize that in life things do not always happen the way we would like them to.
