It turns out that reaching an agreement with a teenager is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. Parents who fail to do this are simply starting from the wrong place.
There is a simple scheme that will help an adult choose a position that will help avoid conflicts and misunderstandings at the very beginning.
Experts have explained what questions parents should ask themselves in order to reach an agreement with their teenager.
"For what?"
Before giving a child an instruction or asking him to do something, parents must answer the question “why?”
That is, why should a child study well, help his parents, dress neatly, speak civilized, and so on.
Moreover, you need to ask yourself this question until you get a comprehensive answer. This technique allows you to determine the purpose of the conversation that the parent initiates.
"Why?"
At this stage, you need to figure out why what you are talking about should be important or interesting to the teenager.
It is clear that a teenager will only be interested in what is in the area of his personal interests. That is why it is so important to determine the child's attitude to your question, because often parents try to realize their ambitions through their children.
At a minimum, the goals of the two parties must coincide.
When to seek help
The help of a specialist will be required if the goals of the child and the parent do not have common points of contact.
Then we will have to start from scratch - establish communication, learn to understand each other, respect each other. It will not be possible to achieve the desired result without this.
