To praise or to punish is an eternal question for many parents. And if there are no special questions about how to punish a child and for what, then with praise things are somewhat different.
The older generation insists that a child should be praised always and everywhere, allowing him to do everything.
But how often do parents get upset when, upon arriving home from grandparents, their child becomes simply uncontrollable.
Constant shouting, whims, unwillingness to fulfill his duties and the desire to get what he wants at all costs.
As a result, scandals in the family are guaranteed. How to resolve this conflict and what is the main thing in education: praise or punishment?
Punishment as a method of correction in education
What do you mean by this concept? A ban on watching TV, a restriction on sweets or walks? Or maybe the way to punish a child in your understanding is a corner or a belt? Here, everyone thinks about their own.
Of course, there are times when children simply drive their parents crazy with their behavior and actions. And so it is quite natural that punishment should still be present in education.
Psychologists say that it is absolutely forbidden to punish a child before or after bedtime, during meals or when he or she is sick.
Never use physical or psychological violence!
It often happens that parents, remembering their child's past misdeeds, punish him immediately and for everything. This is also not recommended.
To properly punish a child, you must first try to pull yourself together - common sense always wins over fleeting emotions. Then you need to explain to the child why he is being punished.
As a rule, children after 3 years understand their misdeeds, but it also happens that a child did something unconsciously and sincerely does not understand why mom and dad are yelling at him.
After punishment, which ideally should influence the child's conscience and sense of compassion, it is important to praise the child.
Let's go for a trick
Educators believe that the ideal method of punishment is to limit communication with the child.
In other words, if your little one has done something wrong, you can get upset with him or stop talking to him, declaring that you are very upset with his behavior.
As practice shows, the method is really effective, because in a few minutes the baby will ask you for something, and in response will be met with silence. It is also important not to overdo it and to take measures to prevent the child from feeling that you do not care about him.
Shouting is not helpful in punishment
Many parents shout at their children, which, in their opinion, supposedly works. In fact, the situation is the opposite and as a result of their shouting, adults get their "copy" - the child simply starts shouting back. This is not aggression or a desire to show off, but ordinary imitation, a desire to behave.
