Parents should find time to communicate with their children, and the communication itself should be full-fledged, interested, and not consist of general questions like “how are things at school?”
At the same time, it is necessary to exclude several phrases that could potentially ruin the relationship with the child, especially if we are talking about a teenager.
Experts have compiled a list of taboo parental phrases that can lead to serious consequences in the future.
"It's not important and can wait."
Against the backdrop of their adult affairs, parents in vain devalue some important affairs and tasks for children, calling them trifles.
Obviously, the next time the child will decide not to tell you anything about his plans, believing that you will again consider them insignificant.
"Take an example from..."
By asking their child to look up to relatives, classmates or anyone else, parents nullify his personal qualities, merits and virtues.
After such claims, problems with self-esteem may arise, which will also affect the relationship with parents.
"You have to..."
Help, obey, study, etc. The teenager understands all this himself, but by starting the conversation with a harsh ultimatum, parents in vain expect that the child will hear them or will not argue.
"You are irresponsible, you cannot be relied upon."
Another example, when parents cross out all the past merits of the child with one phrase. After a critical remark, the child will go into deep defense and you should not expect initiative from him.
"When I was your age"
A phrase that would rank first in terms of boringness in any international ranking, if such a thing existed.
This is how parents try to express their attitude towards the teenager’s problem and even show sympathy, but he doesn’t understand it.
Therefore, instead of indulging in memories, it is better to think together how to find a way out of the situation.
