Of course, parents have every right to ask their child questions.
Otherwise, mom and dad simply won’t know about the events happening in the baby’s life.
But there is an important point: questions should not include provocation or condemnation.
And also, questions asked by parents should not put the child in a psychological dead end.
So what parenting questions are really dangerous?
"Who do you love more - mom or dad?"
Parents will make a very serious mistake if they ask their child such a question.
Don't put your baby in an awkward position. Don't make him choose between mom and dad. There's no point in that.
The child probably treats both mother and father well. And this situation in the family should be maintained.
"Why is your room such a mess?"
This rhetorical question will not help achieve the desired result, but will only create a feeling of guilt in the child and lower his self-esteem.
It's better to hint to the child that he should tidy up his room.
"Where are you going?"
This is a favorite line of some parents. But it is very dangerous for the relationship between adults and children!
If your baby does something wrong, just stop him and explain the possible danger.
It is not worth asking a question that combines accusation, discontent and psychological pressure.
"What to cook for lunch?"
Don't ask this question to a small child. He will probably choose a sweet or some other not very healthy treat (for example, ice cream, cake or chips).
Then the parents will have to spend a long time explaining their refusal to the offended child.
It’s better to offer your child options by asking a question like this: “What should I cook for lunch - potatoes or pasta?”
"Don't you want to apologize?"
The child must make such a decision himself. It is not worth putting pressure on the baby. Otherwise, the child will get used to being insincere.
Previously, experts told how to replace the word “no” when raising a small child.
