In life, every person has made mistakes, but a rare person remembers this and therefore, instead of a sarcastic smile or a caustic phrase, gives practical advice.
The most offensive thing is that often the closest people do this.
Often, when a child makes a mistake, instead of consoling them, moms and dads make such a comment that the poor child would sink into the ground from shame and the realization of their own worthlessness.
Let's find out which phrases are best forgotten once and for all when communicating with children.
1. When a child needs support, parents take on the problem aggressively, saying something like, “You’re a weakling” or “Don’t give up, try harder, study harder!”
Both options are no good.
It’s better to ask what the child doesn’t understand and say, “Let’s figure it out together.”
2. Don't even think about asking where the child's arms are growing from or saying something like, "Leave it before it breaks."
It would be better if you acknowledge that the task is indeed difficult. Offer solutions so that the child can choose the best way.
3. It is not the best option to warn, to work ahead. On the one hand, this is a mistake, but on the other hand, it is an invaluable experience.
So instead of shouting, “Be careful, you’ll trip and break your nose,” it’s better to ask your child to be more careful and watch where he or she is stepping.
4. And instead of advising not to worry about failure, not to be sad, or to go and have fun, tell your child that worrying is normal.
But instead of getting upset, encourage your child to make an effort and correct mistakes.
Previously, we talked about popular parental phrases that cause psychological problems in children.
