Of course, in the process of life and upbringing it is impossible to control every word, so sometimes we say things that we regret.
However, when it comes to raising children, it is important to be aware of your responsibilities.
Sometimes parental phrases have an extremely powerful effect on the subconscious and can influence the formation of a person’s personality, experts note.
What statements should you refrain from?
"You're just like your father" / "You act like your mother"
This is a very strange reproach from one of the parents who voluntarily chose for himself a partner with whom he considered it necessary to start a family and have children.
You are trying to make your child feel guilty for being like one of his parents, even though you chose them yourself.
There is no point in blaming children for something they were in no way able to control.
"If you continue, then I..."
Of course, it is difficult to imagine an adequately functioning model of education without discipline. However, in this case we are talking about threats, blackmail and psychological pressure.
This phrase certainly has nothing to do with pedagogy.
"You're like a girl/boy"
There is no point in imposing stereotypes on children that have already become outdated. Girls can love active games, play "male" sports and have unusual hobbies. This does not mean that they have become "boys", and there is no need to convince them of this.
Boys, in turn, should not be forbidden to show their emotions, talk about painful things, love music and have "feminine" hobbies. Every child should develop in a comfortable direction.
"Money doesn't fall from the sky for me"
Often children do not understand the peculiarities of financial relations, but this is clearly not their fault. Yes, a child may ask to buy expensive things and equipment for him, but this is not at all because you got the money easily.
Children do not have an understanding of monetary relations, and they do not have financial literacy. Therefore, it is worth gradually and consistently teaching them this.
Previously, we talked about the 4 most common mistakes in parenting .
