Raising children is an art that requires patience, knowledge and understanding. Every parent wants their child to be well-mannered, smart and happy.
However, it is not uncommon to encounter situations where parents utter phrases that cause colossal damage.
Therefore, it is worth remembering a few harmless phrases that in reality can have negative consequences.
"You're always like this!"
This phrase may seem harmless, but it can reinforce a child's static self-image. Children are constantly changing and evolving, and it is important to emphasize their uniqueness and ability to change.
"Don't be stupid!"
Using such a phrase can damage a child's self-esteem and lead to the formation of a belief that mistakes are unacceptable. It is also worth looking at the situation differently. What if the child does not consider himself stupid? And when a parent says such a phrase, it creates a clear feeling that this is the case.
"You'll never cope!"
This phrase can increase a child's sense of helplessness and despair. Instead of emphasizing his failures, it is better to encourage and support his efforts, even if they are not always successful. It is very easy to discourage someone from doing something, so every parent should exercise restraint.
"Why are you so naughty?"
This phrase may make your child's behavioral problems worse instead of helping him understand the causes.
Most children do not fully understand what a mistake they made in their behavior. It is important for the child to clearly understand the consequences of their actions, and not just listen to criticism. Moreover, over time, this phrase will no longer have any meaning.
"You're not like all the other kids!"
This phrase can create a sense of isolation and other problems for the child. Here we need to ask a simple question: why should the child feel special?
Singling him out from the others is definitely not the best idea. It is important to convey to the child what behavior is unacceptable and what consequences may occur.
Earlier we talked about how to understand whether a child has problems with self-esteem.
