Emotional manipulation is one of the most unpleasant methods of influencing others.
Unfortunately, some people do not know how to recognize the “warning signs” and resist manipulators.
What’s interesting is that sometimes manipulators use 2 or 3 techniques at once against their victims.
This valuable information will be useful to everyone to protect themselves from manipulators of various kinds.
Many manipulators like to present their own interests as common ones.
If a person refuses to fulfill all the conditions, the manipulator will immediately accuse him of selfishness and lack of understanding. He will probably supplement his accusations with a phrase like: “Your stubbornness and stupidity will bring suffering to everyone. Think about it!”
In the end, the desperate manipulator may change tactics and kindly ask the other person to change their mind.
Everyone is familiar with requests of this type. Often such manipulations work.
The victim does not want to ruin the relationship with the manipulator and lose his support forever in difficult times. They have to go along with his conditions.
Blackmail in its purest form! It won't be difficult for a manipulator to turn a friend or colleague into a "goldfish" fulfilling all his wishes. The main thing is to correctly intimidate a person with a threat.
Blackmailers do not disdain anything. The range of threats can be very diverse:
- "I will ruin your career!"
- “I will separate you from your loved one!”
- “You will find yourself completely alone, without money or shelter!”
These words make the victim understand: she has no choice. In order not to lose everything at once, she must submit to the will of the manipulator. Some people do not bend to the demands of a toxic personality. They quit their jobs, face public shame, lose their families, and are left homeless. Blackmailers are merciless when it comes to their personal gain.
Dominant personalities, who need to control everything, often resort to this manipulation. They build their relationships on special conditions designed to satisfy their needs. All the desires of the other half are in last place in this union.
The impudent manipulator tests the strength of his life partner, checks his feelings. The victim, in turn, adapts to the powerful partner, because he is afraid of divorce.
A loving person will never meanly mock his other half. But a heartless and callous "puppeteer" will easily do so.
This is already a veiled form of manipulation. It is based on the human desire to make a positive impression.
The manipulator only needs to remind the victim how a model husband, a true friend or a professional should behave. After such moralizing, she will change her behavior for the better.
In this situation, manipulation is obvious. The manipulator wants to emphasize with these words: his vis-à-vis is not mature and experienced enough to perform a complex action. Of course, no one wants to feel like a worthless weakling. That is why people easily fall into the trap. Without knowing it, they are providing an invaluable service to the manipulator.
The victim puts in a lot of effort, wanting to prove to the interlocutor their competence, resilience and awareness. Simply put, pride awakens in them. As a result, everyone is happy – the manipulator gets what he wants, and the victim raises their own self-esteem.
This method of manipulation gives a 100% result - the victim's feelings are affected. First of all, she is imbued with sympathy for the manipulator.
In addition, the victim feels ashamed in front of the interlocutor for the lack of empathy and understanding. A confused person will do anything to make amends. By pretending to be offended and insulted, the manipulator achieves his goal.
