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What is "oversharing" and "traumadumping", or Why you can't always be frank
29.05.2024 08:08
The language of specialists is replete with various kinds of terms or simply “words” that raise more questions than the mind can fit answers to.
For example, "oversharing" and "traumadumping." Why should these terms be understood by overly sociable people who are ready to pour out their souls to the first person they meet?
Let's try to figure out what it is, whether it's good or bad, and why you can't be frank with everyone.
Oversharing
It's a habit of telling people you barely know about your life in detail. And it's not about celebrity interviews with journalists.
Rather, the root of the problem is that a person really wants to get used to a new group, which is also a sign of anxiety, and also the influence of social networks - a person loses their bearings in communication and no longer restrains themselves in anything.
Trauma Dumping
This is about the habit of complaining about life, talking about problems, even if the other person doesn’t care about your problems.
In this case, people resort to revelations with the aim of evoking compassion or surprise in the interlocutor.
This will end badly
Firstly, such frankness confuses the listeners first, which is why in the future they will think three times before talking to such an interlocutor again.
Secondly, an overly talkative person often realizes at the end of a story that he needs to remind his interlocutor of the need to keep what he heard a secret.
Thirdly, it usually turns out that information reaches those who should not know it.
Heart to heart talk
Such a conversation can take place strictly tête-à-tête. But there is a much more important circumstance.
You can only talk about your weaknesses with those who know your strengths.
Scientists proved back in the middle of the last century that if a weak person began to complain about life or circumstances, then those around him liked him even less.
And when an authoritative leader explained his mistakes, no one condemned his weaknesses and failures – they say, it happens to everyone.
Previously, we talked about why people like to collect .
