Replace "you" with "I": how to criticize your interlocutor correctly
Few people want to criticize their family and friends, but sometimes such a need arises.
When making a claim to a loved one, many people make a very serious mistake.
They accuse the person directly, using the so-called “you-statement”.
For example, they say: “You disappointed me” or “You did everything wrong.”
But you need to criticize in such a way that the other person doesn’t feel psychological pressure.
How to criticize a person correctly
Any “you-statement” should be replaced with an “I-statement”.
Example: Instead of “You didn’t repair the faucet well,” you should say “It seems to me that the faucet still doesn’t work well.”
Instead of "You cooked a bad dinner," it is advisable to say the following phrase: "I think the food is not cooked well."
Following this simple rule will ensure that your interlocutor does not take criticism to heart.
After all, a person is not so much accused as they are pointed out to him about certain shortcomings in his work.
Therefore, there is no feeling of disappointment. The thought appears: "It's okay, I'll fix everything now."
Earlier we named 5 things you don’t need to apologize for.
