Psychologist Ekaterina Bugrova told what to do if you constantly compare yourself to others
Social networks are full of bright and successful people. How to stop comparing yourself to others and not envy other people's successes? We hasten to disappoint you - it will not work not to compare! As sad as it may sound, but since ancient times, the struggle for survival and competition has been sitting inside us.
But what should we do if for some reason this does not move us forward, but only stops us?
First of all, of course, to determine these reasons, notes psychologist Ekaterina Bugrova .
We may compare ourselves to others because we were compared to them by our parents and teachers at school. Fear of taking responsibility – what a convenient position to be in when we justify our inaction by saying that someone else got everything at once, but not me. For some reason, in our time, everyone’s favorite pastime is to be in a state of victimhood.
Most often, it is internal psychological traumas and clamps that prompt us to compare ourselves with others and at the same time drown in inaction. A visit to a psychologist is the best solution. But what if there is no opportunity?
Here are some tips on how to avoid comparing yourself to others and still achieve success.
- Don't compare, but strive! Someone else's growth should motivate. In order to create a happy family, many people face a bunch of obstacles - choosing a partner, building relationships, overcoming barriers, having children. Businessmen experience both ups and downs. It doesn't happen all at once and at the same time easily. Go to your ideal self, despite any obstacles.
- Stop living in other people's social networks. They show you the candy wrapper, but not what's inside.
- Compare yourself with yourself. If you haven't achieved the desired result yet, look at yourself a year ago and now. Are there any improvements? Of course there are! And if not, then sit down and think about where you went wrong.
- Set yourself goals and objectives. Sometimes we don't even know what we want. We'll give you a little hint - what you envy, or those with whom you constantly compare yourself - this is the desired goal. And in order to implement it, you need to set goals, even the smallest ones.
- Praise yourself! We shift the focus from devaluation to stimulation of our advantages. Every day on a piece of paper or in front of a mirror we name our best qualities (character, appearance, etc.), thank ourselves for certain actions. Think about what others are grateful to you for. You have no idea how many people want to be like you!
- Work with your self-worth, not the evaluation of others. It is worth remembering one thing - each person is unique. If you make an effort, then you will not compare yourself to others, but others will compare themselves to you!
