Psychologist Valeria Ketova told how a woman can bring herself into a resourceful state
Every day we hear that we need to be in the resource, to pump ourselves up from different sides, and then life will sparkle with new colors, and the picture broadcast on social networks will become reality.
Psychologist Valeria Ketova told how a woman can bring herself into a resourceful state.
But many people still don't have a clear idea of how to reach this state, just as life doesn't change at all, no matter how much you adopt the actions of others. In fact, this is the catch.
Before answering the question of how a woman can enter a resourceful state, let's figure out what each of us is striving for, because many don't even fully understand what it is.
So, being in resource means being full, energetic, keeping all spheres of life in balance. In this state, a woman wants to create, share her energy with others and simply enjoy life.
Every moment from the moment she opens her eyes in the morning until she goes to bed is desirable for her. She knows what she wants and goes for it. Only those people who inspire her are around her, opportunities are attracted to her, new acquaintances appear at the right moment.
Everything happens as if by magic: as soon as a wish appears, it is immediately fulfilled in a miraculous way. The world helps her, because she does only what brings her pleasure.
From this we can understand that there is usually no resource when there is no understanding of your true desires and what to do with your life. You want something, but you don’t understand how to do it. You see that others are succeeding, and it seems to you that the problem is in you, that you are at the bottom, and this takes more and more energy.
Anxiety, worry, and loss of strength appear, which makes us feel worse every day. If you recognize yourself in this, then this is not a reason to become even more anxious. Awareness is the first step towards healing. Your life and inner state are in your hands.
A woman is like a vessel. If the vessel is full, you can drink from it, if the vessel is empty, no matter how you shake it, water will not appear there. If we want development in any sphere or just want to live harmoniously, we need to constantly increase our energy. When a woman's vessel is filled to the top, that's when everything starts to happen by itself, the world sends us opportunities and tools to implement our ideas.
And in order to enter the so-called flow, first of all, it is important to understand what fills you, and not the bloggers you are trying to imitate.
This includes everything that, when you do it, you feel that it inspires you, gives you strength, your eyes light up, you walk around charged up and feel cool. Don't be afraid of your desires, write everything that resonates, thinking at that moment about yourself, and not about whether it's good or bad, how others will react.
Write out a list of things that fill you up, it could be dancing, spa, cinema, chatting with friends, massage.
In addition, it is also important to realize what you are draining your energy into on a daily basis. We all know this very well, you just need to ask yourself the question, and the answer will come by itself. For example, this may include constantly scrolling the news feed, communicating with toxic people who are always putting you down, not supporting you in your endeavors, trying to keep you on the same level with themselves, and so on.
For efficiency, it is important to write it out in two columns, and not just figure it out in your head. Because our brain is designed in such a way that we all know what we needed to do, but we don’t do it until it’s burning for us, until it’s structured for us and we don’t see it head-on. Otherwise, we will forever postpone it, which is what happens to most people.
After you have written it all down, try to analyze what from the list prevails in your life. If these are items from the list of things that drain your resources, then the answer is obvious, why the puzzle does not fit together and nothing changes in your life.
To make changes, try to get rid of irritants or reduce them to a minimum. Instead, include in your everyday life the actions from the list of filling things, and soon you will feel the difference. Try it, just three simple actions: write down - analyze - implement.
At first you may feel resistance, so you may have to put in a little more effort, but your job is to do the things that energize you every day, otherwise nothing will change. Only when you balance these two columns will your life begin to transform. You will notice how your brain begins to unload and how lightness appears. The choice is yours.
To sum up, what will help a woman enter a resource state:
- Focus on yourself: You are the most important person in your life and only you can decide what it will consist of - actions that fill you up or drag you down.
- Relaxation: Learn to relax and make decisions in a relaxed state.
- Acceptance: It is important for a woman to accept the situation. Not just "come what may", but to accept and be grateful. This is the only way to achieve harmony.
- Trust in the world: when a woman trusts, the world reciprocates and makes every step of her life easier. Otherwise, living in a state of fear, mistrust, stress, this is what we get: we want to save on ourselves - there will definitely be an "incident" that will take the money.
- Activities that replenish energy: massage, dancing, spa, heart-to-heart talk, meeting with friends.
If we cannot achieve a state of relaxation, acceptance and trust within ourselves, then we simply wear ourselves out and go against the whole world, feel tired and apathetic, and therefore, leave the resource state.
Try to remember this, live by new principles and constantly maintain your new reality - and the result will not keep you waiting.
