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Why You Shouldn't Save Your Marriage for the Sake of Your Child: 3 Reasons
20.12.2024 08:38
A common situation is this: a husband and wife have long wanted to get divorced, but do not do it solely for the sake of their child.
On the one hand, the decision is correct: the family remains complete, the baby sees mom and dad every day, and the parents take a full part in raising their child.
On the other hand, staying in a marriage for the sake of children also has negative consequences.
Especially if the spouses began to hate each other so much that their life was no longer calm.
In the end, it turns out that the disadvantages outweigh all the advantages of the solution.
So, why shouldn't a man and a woman who can no longer live together normally maintain their marriage just for the sake of the child?
Atmosphere of conflicts
It will be psychologically difficult for a child to live in an atmosphere of constant quarrels.
It would be better for parents to get divorced and separate, but stop fighting and start communicating calmly, than to save the marriage and continue to hate each other.
A dangerous example
If a child constantly sees mom and dad arguing, he will decide that such a situation is “normal” for married life.
But if parents who have fallen out of love with each other divorce in a civilized manner, then the child, oddly enough, will have a better chance of creating a happy family in the future.
Guilt
Sooner or later, the child will understand that the mother and father saved the marriage only for his sake.
In this case, the child may develop a feeling of guilt: “It turns out that because of me, my parents are forced to continue living together and suffer...”
