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These phrases from a partner are “alarm bells” of a toxic relationship: at first glance they seem harmless
27.07.2024 09:55
We don't attach any meaning to all the words we hear from our partners.
However, many harmless expressions can be warning signs that problems are arising in the relationship and abuse may begin.
Here are a couple of common phrases that should alert you.
"As you wish" / "Whatever you want" etc.
Sometimes this wording should raise alarm bells if you hear it from your significant other.
Firstly, the phrase "as you wish" is usually heard in response to a question asked. Therefore, it indicates indifference and unwillingness to delve into details. But if you asked a question, you want to hear your partner's opinion and make sure that he or she is ready to participate in anything.
Secondly, the abuser often uses this phrase with an eye to the future. He gives you the right to make a decision on your own, so that he can blame you later: “Well, you wanted it that way yourself.” This is a convenient position for him: you made this decision yourself, so it’s your own fault.
"What's wrong with that?"
This expression is a sign that a wall of misunderstanding is growing between you and your partner.
A phrase like this can be interpreted as follows: “It’s difficult for me to understand the essence of your claims,” “You are too picky about details,” “What I do corresponds to my beliefs.”
If your attempts to "get through" to your loved one come across this phrase and you have a sense of self-worth, you should at least think about ending the relationship that is becoming abusive. Simply put, leave. What's wrong with that?
