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Psychologist Stanislav Sambursky told about 3 reasons why a man fell out of love
25.07.2023 11:10
Often, long-term relationships turn into an unequal expression of feelings. With each passing year, a man becomes more and more attached to his beloved, while she cannot reciprocate.
More often than not, it is the woman who cools down and thinks about radical changes. So what makes a man fall out of love with his life partner?
For comparison. When a couple has been in a relationship for more than a year and has experienced a lot, the woman forgets about the joyful moments of the beginning of their long journey. The partner is devalued and demonized. Indifference replaces ardor. As a rule, the man does not suspect this, his attachment only grows, explains psychologist Stanislav Sambursky .
Statistics show that only 10% of men initiate a breakup because of cooled feelings. The rest, if they have fallen out of love, refuse to change because of the financial consequences.
Stability
Monotonous routine, life according to a schedule and lack of surprises are the path to a man losing his feelings. Such cases are very rare, because in our time only a few ladies are able to provide stability.
And here it is important to clarify. If initially a man madly loved his chosen one, then stability is not a hindrance to him. For him, it is already happiness to live with her. And it does not matter - quietly and peacefully or like on a volcano. It is another matter if he chose his companion "from what was there", did not have strong feelings for her and did not idealize her. Then stability begins to muffle the already weak love. Hence the desire to leave.
Lack of positive aspects
One day, a man meets a girl. He falls head over heels in love with her, but understands that nothing will come of their union. Before it's too late, he decides to break up, but unexpectedly she gives him positive reinforcement. A pleasant moment excites a range of bright feelings and makes him forget about his recent decision. The relationship continues, because the joyful days spent with her are more important than the rest of the negativity.
It's a different matter when there is no positive reinforcement. It is impossible to live in constant tension. Chaos and troubles increasingly bring you closer to the cherished decision. But there is a catch here too. In such a situation, it is the woman who is the first to lose her ardor for her partner. She puts an end to it. As long as love glimmers in a woman's heart, she will always throw wood on the fire. With breaks, but the hearth will burn, which means the man's love will not go anywhere.
Own decision
Betrayal of a loved one changes the familiar world, and then a man is forced to stop loving her. This does not happen in an instant. But an unwavering decision and an unhealed wound speed up this process. Few are able to stop loving of their own free will.
A person who is able to control his emotions and who understands that he cannot become overly attached to a woman decides to do this.
When one loves deeply, the other allows himself to be loved. Women do the same. They neglect a man's feelings, become impudent, and overdo it. Why not, if he forgives everything! In such a case, a man's integrity allows him to forget the one who perceived his love as weakness.
