Psychologist Andrey Kashkarov answered the question of how to maintain interest in each other
To maintain the interest of another, especially a partner in a marriage or personal relationship, you don’t have to be a genius.
There are many available motivational methods, which psychologist Andrey Kashkarov discusses.
Firstly, it is important that the interest be mutual. Because just as you cannot tempt someone who does not want it, so you cannot force an interest or obsessively take an interest in someone else for long.
Secondly, it is necessary to understand the goals. From the word "why?". Thus, goal setting will determine not only the methods and practice of maintaining and even arousing interest, but also the features of the process. The higher, more significant, more global the goal in personal relationships, the greater the chances of getting a high-quality result and the greater the variety of options for immediate steps to maintain interest.
Thirdly, planning is important for almost any action in pursuit of a result. Especially in personal relationships. Therefore, in order to maintain and increase mutual interest, you need to make a plan and you can discuss it with your partner (or not discuss it, keeping the intrigue of the situation). The plan must take into account the characteristics of the characters, the history of the relationship and all significant factors of influence.
Fourthly, it is important to understand that interest in a partner can be primary and secondary. Any actions are reflected by events and reactions to them, so each step can have not one, but several consequences. Approximately as from one pebble thrown into the water, waves-circles diverge; there are several of them both in quantity and in strength.
Practical steps to keep each other interested might include:
Take care of your personal hygiene and appearance. Constantly follow the fashion and quality of your wardrobe. Interest implies attractiveness, so you can’t neglect your appearance.
Improve your education: anything will do - from full-time study at the journalism department of Moscow State University to distance learning courses on financial literacy on the Internet or mastering the profession of a forklift driver. By acquiring this knowledge, you also improve your professional level, make your personality more versatile and attractive, and in addition, being the owner of new knowledge, you can share it with your partner. For example, knowledge of psychology can very well become a unifying beginning and "continuation" for both.
Master new techniques and tactics of personal seduction. Stories, books, stories, jokes – all this is on topic. Share it with your partner in a timely manner. As for tactile participation and the method with new positions, it is also good. There are more than 260 variants of different kisses in the world piggy bank, and many “lazybones” have not increased their level of knowledge for their partner since the wedding and use only 5-6 classic methods. This is an anachronism of the era. Interest arises and is maintained where you practice something new – be it knowledge or action. Your partner will definitely appreciate it. If you can, write a book about your love yourself, publish it, but do not tell your partner, and then invite him to a creative evening.
If your options are less extensive, please consider what is available.
New recipe for the table, new evening dress, new gift for your beloved. And do it regularly.
In addition, create and maintain reasonable intrigues. Because intrigue maintains interest. Of course, this is not about provoking your partner to adultery by telling you about your imaginary adventures, but about doing unexpected surprises that may be difficult to explain right away. Example: come home without warning dressed as Count Dracula, but with a beautiful bouquet of her favorite flowers. Creative imagination will help you.
Refresh your impressions of the world, that is, go on a trip together, where you will get pleasure and new positive emotions. Any possible ones, up to a joint parachute jump.
So, there can be as many options for maintaining interest as you like, and they are limited only by your imagination.
That is, do everything you haven't done before. Become positively unpredictable for a while, and then return to your role again. To give the opportunity to solve this behavioral puzzle. With such changes, you can maintain your partner's interest in yourself for quite a long time.
