Partner is looking for an “alternative option”: psychologist Stanislav Sambursky named the signs
Relationships are a secret for two. If the couple is beautiful and the novel seems to be copied from the pages of a work of art, then the public increasingly wants to know the details of their personal life.
Passionate relationships are noticeable like a red rag. Some admire such couples, while others envy them. But behind the spectacular public appearance there may be a far from attractive picture, says psychologist Stanislav Sambursky .
It is unlikely that people living in the same territory are capable of producing the effect of an exploding bomb in society.
At first, the relationship suits the woman, because it gives her energy, which has a positive effect on her career, determination and life in general.
She wants to develop the relationship and at least live together. She gathers up her courage and asks the man to move in together.
Because, to tell the truth, she was tired of scheduled meetings.
There are two possible scenarios: the first is that the partner accepts the offer, the second is that he rejects it, after which the passion fades.
At first, the woman tries to fix everything, but then she realizes that she is knocking on a closed door and leaves.
A psychologist has named markers that signal that a partner is looking for an “alternative option.”
- Meetings are held strictly according to schedule. Spontaneity and initiative are fraught.
- There are comments about the partner’s appearance and actions with direct hints at shortcomings.
- Victories, achieving goals, etc. do not cause emotions, and if they do, then only irritation.
- Passion gave way to apathy, indifference to everything and an unwillingness to remain alone.
- Online communication no longer involves long correspondence. Now you can increasingly read - "maybe", "probably", "we'll see". Anxiety arises, because it is not clear what to expect.
- When meeting, eye contact is replaced by reading SMS, browsing the feed, etc.
- The feeling that dates are just for show. When you ask the question: "What's going on?", you may not expect an answer, or you hear something vague that doesn't make sense.
- And the most important thing: resentment and silence do not cause emotions, do not provoke active actions. Silence sets in, in which no one has put a period.
All this is done in order to try yourself in a new relationship. And if something doesn't work out there, then at any moment you can appear before your ex-girlfriend again: in a month, three, six months, a year... It is worth understanding that such a return will again be temporary.
