What qualities do women value in men?
Among the qualities that a woman values in a partner and husband, those that she herself does not possess to one degree or another predominate.
The well-known assumption that a woman chooses a man based on her father's likeness and psychotype is not so wrong. And she does this because of that memory, care and maybe indulgence in pampering, her desires, love and feelings of parental affection and solving all the problems of the world - for her, that she remembers from childhood.
For many girls, their father really was or is an example of care, masculinity and constancy, says psychologist Andrei Kashkarov .
Just as for many who have experienced the bitterness of a single-parent family, the mother's style of behavior subsequently becomes the style of their own behavior throughout their adult life; because children learn from examples, and naturally perceive as "normal" the behavior (no matter what subjective value judgments it evokes in someone from the outside) that they see before their eyes.
Thus, the qualities valued in men can be different for different women and even at different ages, by the same analogy, as the Mexican philosopher Octavia Paz said, "throughout our lives we ask ourselves the same questions, only the answers change" , because there are no absolutely similar people - neither in external features, nor in acquired life experience. However, there are typical qualities that a woman values in a man prerogatively.
First of all, it is the ability to systematically solve for her the issues that make her uncomfortable. In particular, these are material issues, but not only them.
The ability to defend her honor in a timely manner, to dive into an ice hole to get a cell phone that accidentally or intentionally fell there, to say the right word at the right time - when she is angry or worried about something; even to say something banal if you lack the imagination for other figures of speech, to say: “everything is fine, everything is fine, I love you, and this will not change” - your woman will appreciate all this very much.
What is important here is the topic, the absence of doubts and excuses (justifications on his part) and the timeliness of the action. And then it's a question of details. Any woman needs care very much - we got it from nature; nothing can be said against the "wisdom" of instinct. And even if she is completely self-sufficient, then "a kind word is pleasant even to a horse" will help your relationship.
At another level of masculine qualities valued by women is generosity, or as it is otherwise called - kindness. This desire also goes hand in hand with us from childhood, from the actions of our father or mother.
Both in material and non-material terms, generosity with gifts, even light, small, but systematic, as well as compliments that testify to your admiration for her, that it is she who decorates this world, give a woman confidence in her irresistibility and uniqueness, and such a man, of course, is appreciated.
Sacrifice (for her) is conditionally in third place among male behavioral applications. That is, it is valued when a man, even involved in the modern process of earning all the money in the world, finds time to be with her, listen to her, and, what is important - not nominally - hear, and be with her both at home and on a trip.
Showing concern for her, her and, as she dreams and says, common interests with him, because even her child from her first marriage, her mother, should in her understanding become objects of his no less strong love and care, she not only wants this, but also demands it in different ways. That is, she values it. As well as a man's skill (care) about a common home, about tomorrow, about offspring.
And tomorrow now scares many people, both in view of the huge number of divorces and in view of the challenges of the times, which most families and couples are unable to influence. A woman is potentially (we are talking about the typical) afraid of tomorrow. And she needs a man who can relieve these anxieties of hers with actions, but if not, then at least with psychotherapy.
In general and typically, a woman values his monogamy, love and care – in different forms. She values anticipation and fulfillment of desires. Like any person in our turbulent times and especially in a hedonistic society focused on pleasure and consumption, when people strive to influence and shine: most of all, people love when they are… loved.
