Typical thoughts of a girl who is used to suppressing her desires and living for others

Being an altruist is not a bad thing at all, but it's always important to maintain a balance.

When you start forgetting about your desires, pushing them into the background, and living exclusively for others, you turn into a mass-market girl. That is, a rather convenient person who does not value herself at all. Hence the dissatisfaction, and depression, and the eternal, but fruitless search for yourself.

Check if you are a mass market girl who has lost her balance and gives all her energy to others?

There are seven thoughts that give away such ladies completely. If you often catch yourself doing something like this, then it's time to change, advises the expert of the online publication "Belnovosti" Pavel Rakov , a psychologist, coach, creator of the cult training "In fact, I'm smart, but I live like a fool."

1. "It's too expensive! I'll wait for a sale."

You earn quite well, but still prefer to buy clothes, shoes and other things on sales or in the cheapest stores. No doubt, it is quite profitable sometimes, besides, many millionaires do not disdain discount coupons, preferring to save. But what if you urgently need a winter jacket? Will you wait for a grand sale?

Understand one simple truth: you can and should save, but sometimes circumstances dictate otherwise. And high-quality expensive things last many times longer. In addition, by releasing money into circulation, and not holding it back, you create a situation for their return in double the amount.

2. “I don’t have time to do fitness”

There is no time to take care of your figure, health, go to the doctor... So you put everything off until later, and for some reason the problem does not resolve itself.

Folk wisdom says: "Whoever wants to, does; whoever doesn't, looks for excuses." Perhaps, you secretly think that your loved ones will appreciate such a sacrifice, when the money for sports or a visit to the doctor goes to the needs of the family.

But your family needs you as a healthy and happy person, not as a driven and tired horse. So be sure to find time and money for your needs. A healthy, fit person who is friends with physical activity works better and achieves career success faster.

3. "You can dye your hair yourself"

You can do your own manicure and pedicure, even cut your bangs and massage your shoulders. But most often it doesn't turn out as beautiful as with a professional, and minor injuries are possible when using scissors.

Of course, there are temporary financial difficulties in life, when it is difficult to afford visits to a beauty salon. But if everything is fine with money, and you still save on yourself, then you are turning into a mass-market girl. Taking care of your beauty is natural, and it also allows you to climb the career ladder. Do not refuse pleasant procedures, believing that the family budget is more needed by children and husband. A well-groomed mother is the pride of a son or daughter.

4. “I don’t like my job, but at least I have a stable salary.”

When a person feels bad, he tries to either solve the problem or get away from it. But women who think only about others, including the opinion of society, prefer to suffer. Especially in an unloved job. Yes, the uncertainty after dismissal is very frightening, in a favorite field you will have to start from scratch, and what will your parents say, for example?

No, it's better to be patient, because there is some stability. And then you really don't want to offend the team you've gotten used to. That's exactly how women who live someone else's life and have given up on their own desires think. But are you ready to spend your whole life in a state of disappointment and self-doubt? After all, as soon as you choose a job you like, all your dissatisfaction with life will blow away like the wind.

5. "A child must have a father!"

This phrase is what stops a divorce from an unloved husband or abuser, from whom you should run as far as possible. In fact, you are desperately lying to yourself. A child should have, firstly, a happy and calm mother, and, secondly, an example of a reasonable and adequate person who does not suffer from masochism.

Family life with a partner you do not respect and have not loved for a long time will definitely affect children, who will absorb with their mother's milk that life is continuous suffering. No matter how you hide your emotions and attitude towards your spouse, it will be visible to the naked eye. Well, and from an abuser who raises his hands and humiliates you in every possible way, you should simply leave without looking back. And do it for your own safety.

6. “First, let’s buy clothes for my husband/child.”

All the best for the children! Then for the husband, and then, as a last resort, for the woman. No, in fact, with proper planning of the family budget, you can find funds for yourself. You just probably never thought about it.

Such self-sacrifice develops the syndrome of postponed life, when you put off good things for later, for the near future. Dresses that you have never worn gather dust in the closet. A beautiful tea set is bored in the cupboard. The washing machine has never been used because you need to save electricity, and it is easier to wash by hand. As a result, you look tired and faded, but your loved ones flaunt beautiful clothes. And now those around you begin to consider you a hired servant who serves the family. And they sincerely wonder, where is the beautiful mother?

7. "I can't afford it"

You can do everything! Many can afford to have a snack or breakfast in a cafe, buy new shoes, go to work by taxi, get a haircut in a beauty salon with a good hairdresser and even travel to the countries they dreamed of.

It's just that if you live for others, you somehow forget about your dreams and needs. Start small but enjoyable, and you'll quickly notice that there is money! And it doesn't disappear anywhere. On the contrary, the more you pamper yourself (within reason, of course), the higher your profit becomes. Big expenses entail big incomes.

This is how the money cycle works. And when you start to restore your energy balance and live for yourself, the attitude of others towards you changes. You suddenly begin to feel respect from colleagues, attention from unfamiliar men, and also accept lucrative job offers.

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• 4 April 2023

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