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Why Do You Attract Greedy Men? Pavel Rakov Explains
19.02.2023 20:41
Updated: 14.04.2023 03:01
Did he show up on the first date without flowers and split the bill at the cafe? Did he show up at your birthday party without a present, saying that it was the best gift? Is he always asking for small amounts of money as a loan and not returning them? Does he think that the best vacation is not in Turkey, but at the dacha digging potatoes?
Well, perhaps you have come across a typical greedy man who saves on his relationships. Having an affair with a stingy knight once is an experience.
But when there is not one, but two, three or more of them on your path, it is worth thinking about. Why do you only come across misers? There are 7 different reasons for this, which will be told by the expert of the online publication "Belnovosti" Pavel Rakov, a psychologist, coach, creator of the cult training "In fact, I am smart, but I live like a fool."
1. Attitudes from childhood
Yes, the attitudes you are given in your family play a big role in your adult life. Remember what your parents and grandparents told you? "We didn't live richly and there's nothing to start", "A penny saved is a penny earned", "Don't have a hundred rubles...", "You can't buy health with money"... If you have heard this constantly for many years, it is not surprising that you come across greedy men.
You were practically prepared to meet such specimens, growing up as a selfless person! You believe that money is evil, negative, sinful. And they respond to you in the same way, that is, they are in no hurry to appear in your life - neither at work, nor with a man. What to do? Break the attitudes and remind yourself more often that money is just a tool that will provide you with a healthy and happy life.
2. Lack of self-love
If somewhere deep inside you consider yourself unworthy of a good salary and a big house, a beautiful dress and delicious food, then don’t be surprised if men start thinking the same way. People see a person’s attitude to their “I” one way or another and act accordingly.
You don't invest in yourself, you don't spoil yourself with nice things, you buy expired products on sale, and your mom gives you a haircut, but for free? Then where would the desire to buy flowers come from inviting you on a date? It's easier for him to say: "Oh! This will do!"
After all, you will forgive a walk in a cold park instead of sitting in a restaurant, because: "Can I really get that? No, that's for good girls! And I..." Start falling in love with yourself urgently - and the greedy ones will fall away by themselves.
3. The habit of not giving
In this case, we are not talking about debts. This is about what you can give to the world in general and to a man in particular. If you are focused only on yourself, and helping your family is a thing of the past for you, and gifts to colleagues even more so, then stingy knights will definitely come your way.
Someone should show you what you look like from the outside. Didn't get it the first time? Get a greedy person the second, third, fourth time. Someday you will draw the right conclusions and learn to share your energy, strength, time and money. No, we are not talking about everyone suddenly sitting on your neck and dangling their legs!
You are free to decide for yourself who to support and who to inspire. However, there should be room in life for both healthy egoism and altruism. Only then will you achieve harmony and get rid of misers, because like attracts like.
4. High level of independence
It is very difficult to court a lady who is very independent, that is, lives by the principle "I myself!" She herself will remind you that it is time to split the bill, she herself will buy flowers and a birthday present, she herself will take herself to a resort and relax herself. Even if a man reaches out with all his heart to such a lady, sooner or later he will start saving on her.
She constantly rejects his love language! Yes, for many representatives of the stronger sex, money is one of the ways to express feelings. The more they invest in their partner, the stronger the wound from Cupid's arrows. But when the beloved says: "Oh, no need, I'll do it myself!", the passion begins to gradually fade. But most often, such women attract a certain type - gigolos and greedy people.
5. Complete irresponsibility
If you are not ready to take responsibility for your actions and hope that a man will arrange everything for you, then... Meet a typical greedy man! He will definitely decide how and what you spend money on and whether to spend it at all, and will demand a report on every penny given for family expenses. And then more.
He will start saving on your life, children, health, even feelings for you. Yes, stingy knights calmly hold back attention, tenderness, but you yourself handed over all the reins of government to them. When you want to be an eternal girl, not deciding anything, you need to be ready for someone to do it for you. Including in the money issue.
6. Great love of money
Here, everything depends on the level of love for money. It is one thing if you love it, but can easily spend it on yourself, your family, your friends. And you enjoy it. But it is completely different when your feeling is excessively great. You measure everything in bills or currency - friendship, relationships, work moments, help.
Every person is the sum of money invested in clothes, shoes, accessories, and restaurant meals. And their character traits, abilities, and talents are not so important. In fact, you yourself are a greedy person, because you like to spend your earnings exclusively on yourself. Then don’t be surprised by the appearance of stingy knights. They, like birds of a feather flock together, see a stingy lady from afar. Why do you need each other at all? To sing the praises of thriftiness and assure everyone around you that gifts are not the most important thing.
7. Rescue of the "drowning"
How long are you willing to wait for a man's bad streak to turn into a good one? Statistics say that a self-confident professional will never be out of work. At most, he will look for a new job for six months, but he will definitely find one. But if your beloved has been feeding you with empty promises about his plight for over a year (and you are feeding him with real empty promises), then take a good look at yourself.
What if you are a woman who likes to save "drowning people" who are not choking at all? It is just convenient for them to sit on your neck, because you are so understanding and patient! That is why you can lend money, take out a loan instead of him, and do without flowers.
Never save with your warmth and kindness that person who can easily take a fishing rod and catch fish, that is, go and earn money. If for some reason he does not do this, then you have simply warmed a greedy person to your bosom.
