Why Men Leave Their Families - Explained by a Psychologist
To begin with, I would like to note that most marriages break up because the partners in them do not listen to each other deeply.
Anna Ryazanova , an expert on psychology for the online publication BelNovosti, explained the reasons for a man leaving his family.
They are so stunned by subjective pain that, when talking about their feelings, they do not at all penetrate the feelings and experiences of their partner. And this lack of dialogue usually leads to divorce.
For a man, the reason for leaving the family may be the unbearable responsibility he bears in marriage. The man feels that he is breaking under it: he is not heard, they demand from him. In our culture, a man is the support of the family.
Everything rests on him, he is responsible for many things. However, he also needs a moral foundation, support in the form of a loving and caring family, who, despite everything, will hear and understand him. However, this point is often forgotten.
Another reason can be called the so-called family program. That is, a man breaks off relations at the same age as his parents did when he was little. This is a subconscious connection that a psychologist can help work through: to understand whether this is your scenario and what is behind it.
There is another story, when parents saved the marriage for the sake of the child. But in fact, they caused him serious psychological trauma, pain. And now this child has become a man and does not want his children to repeat his fate. Therefore, he leaves the destructive relationship.
A man can also leave his family when he feels that the relationship is one-sided. That is, everything is done for the sake of the woman, and his feelings and experiences are devalued and ignored.
And when he realizes that his desires are not fulfilled, he leaves. This could be leaving again for another family, for another woman, whose attention will be directed at the man. It is important to understand that marriage is the fusion of two inner worlds. Each partner has their own thoughts, feelings, emotions. And they definitely should not be in last place for the other partner.
However, strong marriages are born not from the need to close one's hole, one's pain, but because men and women are filled with something good, something creative.
And before breaking the bonds of marriage, you should still understand the motives of your decision. There are many of them, and they are different, but most often it is fear, pain or not being heard. Based on this, you can agree, make up for, correct.
