Why modern men don't want to get married
Here it is necessary to immediately clarify the point: there are men who have not yet been married and do not want to get married, and men who are already divorced and are in no hurry to enter into such a relationship again.
Anna Ryazanova , an expert on psychology for the online publication BelNovosti, explained why men don’t want to get married.
In both cases, there can be one reason – negative experience. In the first case, the man learns about it from friends and relatives. In the second, he personally receives this experience.
According to statistics, the number of divorces today is almost equal to the number of marriages. That is, the end seems inevitable. In addition, divorce is a rather painful process, especially if children were born in the marriage.
Another reason for not wanting to get married is a lack of trust in the future spouse, that, for example, it is selfless, that after marriage the woman will not change for the worse and will not stop caring for her beauty. The relationship itself will not change either.
The third reason is the fear of losing freedom. It seems to a man that in marriage he will be limited in his desires and actions. Moreover, he will have to earn more money and give up the habits that he had in his single life.
This fear is especially acute when personal freedom was obtained at a high price. For example, a man was brought up in a large family, where he depended on the desires and moods of other family members.
And now he has finally broken out of this circle, started earning money, living the way he wants. Of course, he won't want to suddenly say goodbye to his usual routine.
A man may also be afraid of the responsibility that a marriage relationship imposes on him. This is responsibility for his woman, for future children. And here we should analyze this fear, because behind it there may be an unwillingness to have children.
This in turn is connected with difficult moments of one's family history, when the man was a child, or again examples from the lives of others. A feeling of horror, pain from the lived experience, even someone else's, may remain in the psyche. As a result, the person will do everything to ensure that this does not happen again in his life.
And the most banal reason for a man's unwillingness to marry a woman is the lack of love for her. Perhaps, at this stage, the relationship is comfortable. Two people met to gain a certain experience.
However, the man does not see a future with this woman. He does not have that special psychological connection that gives confidence and can overcome all fears and doubts.
Marriage is a serious step, so the choice in its favor should be conscious, come from a healthy psyche. After all, most often we are afraid to get married when it seems that we are deprived of the right to choose, as if it does not exist at all.
This happens when a woman or relatives put pressure on a man. And this, by the way, can also be the reason for his reluctance to marry.
