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Why a husband is afraid to make decisions: a psychologist analyzed
04.01.2023 08:25
Updated: 13.04.2023 03:48
Let's face it, each of us at least once in our lives experienced fear when making a decision on our own.
But look: there are many people around who make decisions, continue to live peacefully and move forward.
Our blogger, clinical psychologist Stanislav Sambursky, has sorted out the issue.
For some people, any decision is one of the strongest psychological fears. Of course, they try to fight, and this fight lasts for a lifetime.
Usually the main problem of these people is the fear of taking responsibility for their lives. That is, they often lack self-confidence to determine their priorities in life.
Decidophobia is a mental disorder in which a person experiences fear of making decisions and fear of their actions.
Often, making an important decision is a process that requires a lot of effort and emotional maturity of the individual.
Decidophobia is often a consequence of excessive fear and life passivity. Such pathology arises due to the suppressed and underdeveloped emotional-volitional sphere of the personality.
Deciodophobia affects both men and women equally. However, infantilism and avoidance of decision-making on the part of a man, especially when it is a husband or a permanent partner, causes a sharp misunderstanding on the part of a woman.
Reasons that stimulate the fear of making decisions
- Overprotective parenting style in childhood.
- Authoritarian parenting style.
- Frequent punishments, harsh criticism.
- Suggestions of "you're a loser" from parents (This is not professional football, where the coach's shout "you're a loser! You can't do anything" excites the players and they go to prove the opposite. The child will believe your accusation and give up. Don't do that.)
- Dependence on other people's opinions.
- Frequent changes in lifestyle.
- Personal psychological trauma.
There are two possible behaviors for a person with decidophobia:
- avoidance of making any decisions;
- shifting responsibility.
The main signs of decidophobia
- Headache.
- Pain and tightness in the chest.
- Increased heart rate.
- Hysteria.
- Tremors and weakness in the legs.
- Nervous attacks.
- Panic attacks.
The main thing is to understand that decision making has become a pathological problem.
If someone close to you categorically avoids making decisions or shifts this responsibility onto others, it is worth seeking help from a specialist.
“You need to seek help as soon as possible, because you can cope with this disease in the early stages on your own.
But if a person continues to develop this pathology, he begins to live without a purpose or meaning in life. He simply does not understand why he is alive and where he is going. This leads to depression and self-deception,” – Stanislav Sambursky, clinical psychologist, business psychologist.
