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The Costs of Obedience: Why the Habit of Listening to Parents Does Not Benefit a Child
22.03.2024 21:42
An obedient child is certainly a joy for parents. Such a child does not break any rules, is polite and always ready to help.
However, an overly obedient child may face some problems in the future.
He may not be interesting as a person.
An obedient child sometimes thinks: "If I get angry, it might upset Mom and Dad." Such thoughts may also appear when it comes to joy.
As a result, the child will suppress his emotions, even if they are completely normal. As a result, such children grow up to be overly reserved and boring people, with whom it is simply not interesting to communicate.
It is much more important and useful for a child to explain that any individual is, first of all, a living person.
He is unlikely to become a successful person.
Often children are afraid of being naughty and "bad" for fear that their parents may stop loving them. The blame for this lies with adults who immediately scold their child as soon as he makes a small mistake.
At the same time, the negative emotions of parents choose not the misconduct as their target, but the child himself - when, for example, they say that they do not know who he took after because he was so stupid because of the bad grade he brought home from school.
As a result, the child begins to try to study mainly for the sake of his parents, and not for himself - he puts the number and subsequent praise first, and not his own knowledge.
Another "side" effect is that such children try to keep a low profile and do everything at an average level, thinking to themselves - they won't be scolded, and that's good. As an adult, such a person is unlikely to be successful.
Earlier we talked about 3 unexpected discoveries that await a dad after the birth of his daughter.
