"We don't have money": why parents shouldn't tell their child this phrase

02.02.2024 00:30

Not wanting to buy a toy or a sweet for their child, some parents say: “We don’t have money.”

It would seem that this is very convenient: the child immediately understands that his request is being denied for a good reason, and no longer distracts mom and dad.

However, the phrase, oddly enough, is very dangerous.

Its pronunciation can lead to negative consequences: it is possible that the relationship between parents and the baby will deteriorate.

Why is the phrase dangerous?

Sooner or later, the child will understand that the parents have money for other purchases. As a result, the child will be offended by mom and dad because they "cheated" him.

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If there are indeed financial problems, the child may develop complexes: “I live in a poor family.” It is possible that the child will begin to envy other children.

What is the best thing to tell a child?

If you don’t want to buy your baby this or that thing, fearing to spoil him or harm him, then you don’t need to “hide” behind the lack of money.

It's better to be honest: "We don't want to buy you candy again. You eat it too often, and it's bad for you." Another option: "You already have so many toys that you forgot about. We'll buy you a new one in a month."

If the inability to buy something for the child is really due to a lack of money, you should say the following: “We can’t afford such a purchase at the moment. But there will be a present for the birthday!”

Earlier, parents were told what 4 secrets will help their child grow up successful.

Author: Kurchev Anton Deputy Editor-in-Chief

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  1. Why is the phrase dangerous?
  2. What is the best thing to tell a child?