Psychologist Yulia Itskova told how a woman can become attractive
And here is the main question: why? What drives the desire to ATTRACT.
Itskova Yulia, clinical psychologist, psychologist of transformational states, sexologist, told how a woman can become attractive.
Going out to Arbat dressed as an Amazon, Roger Rabbit or Peppa Pig is also about attraction.
Therefore, the main word in this query is the word WOMAN!
Often, girls in pursuit of attractiveness miss this very essence.
So how to become an attractive woman
- Stop comparing yourself to others.
In our modern world, a lot is tied to competition. From childhood. "Children, whoever puts on tights first/draws the most beautiful picture/writes a dictation with an A will get..." it doesn't matter what.
In the end, our parents told us that Vasya sings better than you, and Masha always wears white shoes. Even in the little ones' sandbox, two mothers compare their little ones: "When did yours start walking? How many teeth does it have?"
And that's it. If you're not at the top for some reason, your mother gets upset, looks at you like you're a loser, looks for flaws in you and non-verbally (in tone, facial expression, attitude) conveys this to the child. Boys' self-esteem is built on a slightly different principle, but for girls it's destructive.
As a result, girls spend their entire lives chasing the ghost of “Being better than” and forget about such an aspect as their own uniqueness.
An attractive woman may not be beautiful (this is an assessment and again a comparison), but she knows exactly what makes her unique. This makes her noticeable and attracts attention.
- Knows how to say "no".
And here her attractiveness is not in the fact that she is "showing off", but in the fact that she respects herself, her boundaries, her interests. She knows what and how she wants - and here we are talking about work, relationships, sex and other aspects of life.
Moreover, by respecting herself, she respects others, because for her people are not a function, not bio-waste, but a person, a value.
Agree, when people communicate with you respectfully, do not try to manipulate, push, or impose their opinion - this is attractive.
In addition, by saying "no", such a woman is ready to accept "no" in response. And this is also about respect.
Does such a woman say "yes"? Of course. If it is right and useful for her at the moment.
- Has her own interests and hobbies. Family, children, husband, cooking, homework with a child, caring for sick relatives, and other everyday moments are NOT EQUAL to interests and hobbies.
No, if you get ecstatic from washing dishes and euphoric from ironing, then ok. Not from the result (this is important), but from the process itself.
If all this has become boring and “Mom, check your homework” makes you want to shoot yourself, then this is not a hobby.
A hobby is something you can "get stuck" in and enjoy the process, not the result. Some people paint pictures, cross-stitch, swim in ice water or meditate on fire. There is benefit, but it is insignificant compared to the bliss of the process itself.
An attractive woman knows exactly what she is interested in and what hobby fills her up and charges her with emotions. This fills her with energy, her eyes start to shine, and the blood rushes to her body. And now we have a living woman in front of us, not a “frozen” roach.
An attractive woman will not allow anyone to deprive her of the hobby that she is currently interested in. This is a significant part of her life, different from family, children, men and work.
- What makes a woman attractive is her interest in life and her ability to be surprised.
This is an indicator that energy, and therefore life, flows calmly in her. Her vitality level (ability to live, grow and develop) is high, and so is her libido.
Men catch such women with their eyes. It is warm, joyful and always interesting to be around them. The interest shown by men also nourishes a woman, but initially all this love, energy and life are born inside a woman, and only then she transmits it into life.
- Oh, and I almost forgot. The body. The body for an attractive woman is like the most expensive dress in the world. She wears it with dignity and courtesy. At the same time, she feels like she is in warm pajamas, where nothing is tight, nothing is pressing, and it is so cozy. No, it is not perfect, it is native and beloved.
Becoming an attractive woman is easy. Being an attractive woman is a lot of work out of love for yourself.
