In life, situations often arise when we say or hear the word “sorry”.
However, you shouldn't give this word omnipotence: it is not capable of magically solving all the problems that have arisen. Sometimes apologies can even worsen the situation, so try not to resort to the methods of asking for forgiveness from this article - you will only make things worse.
Shifting responsibility to circumstances
If you want to sincerely apologize, take responsibility not yourself and do not blame your actions on retrograde Mercury, a crazy boss or an inadequate neighbor who spoiled your mood in the morning.
Shifting responsibility to the victim
If you don't want to ruin your relationship with the person you offended, never say: "Sorry for yelling. But you always get in my way."
Pull the blanket over yourself
When you apologize, don't get too carried away with describing your own suffering. Stories about how you're worried, not eating, and not sleeping because of what happened are nothing more than banal manipulation.
Trying to hush up the conflict
"Sorry, and let's forget about it" - this phrase is also not the best option for an apology. If you have seriously wronged (even if not intentionally), this act will come up in the victim's memory more than once - just give him time to accept the situation.
Buying forgiveness
“Sorry. This new smartphone is for you.” Only a person who has already broken the same smartphone would say that. There is nothing wrong with gifts, but when it comes to apologies, there is a catch. It can give the impression that the person apologizing does not really regret their actions. They are simply offering compensation to earn forgiveness, and then continue to do what they did wrong, because apologies are so easy to buy.
