If you want to cheer up a loved one, it's hard to find a more inappropriate phrase than, "Nonsense, stop being upset!"
In this way, you make it clear that the reason for the upset is a trifle, thereby devaluing something important to the interlocutor and his feelings about it.
How to support someone who is sad
What can you do if you can’t devalue a person’s feelings and convince him that everything is okay when he feels bad?
1. First of all, listen to him and try to understand his emotional state.
2. Don’t try to distract a person from negative experiences, give him the opportunity to express his feelings.
3. You can do without comments if you have nothing to say or you don’t know how to help. It’s enough to show sympathy: look with understanding, nod.
4. At the same time, do not forget that empathy and understanding of how another person feels does not mean that you automatically agree with his point of view.
Earlier we talked about when and why men cry .
